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Career Moms, Career or Moms?

I’m no stranger to being judged unfairly based on something superficial, I’m too white to be malay, too malay to be taken seriously, too green, too young to be important, too old to be fresh, too pretty to be smart and as if that wasn’t bad enough, i’m also a mother of 2.

What does that (being a mother) mean? Means it’s harder to get placed out station, harder to be sent on work trips, harder to go frankly anywhere under short notice. But like most working mom’s will tell you, that isn’t really a deal breaker. You actually can, consider us for these roles, as mothers we are versatile, and flexible. How else do we adapt to growing a tiny creature, full day meetings and all night feeds?

It’s no secret that mothers in the office are treated like fragile creatures. Like somehow having a baby made us sensitive, soft and less hungry to succeed. Sure we like to go home early if we can… but I don’t see how this is different from a single person wanting to leave early to go meet up at a bar or catch a movie with friends.

Where am I going with this?

A while back, I had the (unfortunate) opportunity to meet up with the head of an exciting new Start-Up. We were talking, and it seemed to be going well, until he found out I had kids. Then with a frown on his face, he explained the company culture was such, that they were in the office most days from 9am – 9pm. Now, I’m no stranger to working late, I used to work in Advertising, and I’ve done my fair share of overtimes. Not too long ago, I was 8 and 2/3 months pregnant and at my clients office at 1am to oversee the launch of the iPhone 6s. But the way he phrased it, made me a little annoyed.

So, I explained, that I do not mind staying back when there are things to be done, but (this is 2016 afterall) most of our work revolves around the internet (which I have at home), so if for some reason I needed to leave before 9PM, I could carry on work from home.

Then, he said something, that I could not believe….

“You are interesting, but not for now, maybe in 4-5 years, when you feel like ‘hey, maybe 2 kids is enough’ we can talk again.”

Then as if to make me feel better.
“Don’t worry, different people have different goals

Honestly, if I followed my motherly instincts or my natural PMS-ridden aggression, I would have smacked his smug face. But I am, after all, a professional, so I said Thank You for their time, and left.

Sure, I was angry, but I was also disappointed. When I’m upset, I Google.

I found that A survey of 2,000 mothers has revealed 51% feel their employers’ and colleagues’ attitudes changed when they became pregnant, with one in four believing they have been subject to discrimination before or after the birth of their child, and one third stating things had been “difficult” since returning to work and they had been overlooked for promotions because of their new responsibilities.

Unfortunately, I do find this somewhat true. Although my current employers were extremely supportive, back in 2011, when I found out I was having my first child, I was simply told, that if I could not be with the team, during our long working days and nights, that I should resign, because it was ‘UNFAIR’ to the team. And I actually resigned. I was young, naive, frankly rather stupid for letting them make me feel bad for wanting to bring another human being into this world.

So I share this story with you, colleagues, mothers, and all future mothers, to know your rights. Stand up for yourself, being a mother doesn’t make your career any less valuable. Because now you aren’t just working for yourself. You are working for something greater.

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Every year the scene during raya becomes more and more about updating statuses, rather than actual conversations.

I miss the old days when raya was this crazy noisy event, where all my grandparents siblings would come over to Taman Melawati and just talk for hours.

Now, it’s more like eat, take pics and let’s check in to the next location.

This year, i intend to let Mahdi experience Raya like how me and Alia did. With no iPhones or iPads to distract him. I think it’s going to be a great year. 🙂

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PMS gives me strength.

PMS gives me strength.

Maybe it’s just biological, or maybe having your period makes more alert of all the idiots out there. However could also be from the lack of sleep, since Mahdi woke up at 3am and puked milk all over the bed. -_-.

Multiple issues were brought to my attention this morning, and it has me in a pissy mood.

Anyhow, here’s short list of things that piss me off today.

  • People saying that our young are screwed, because they are brought up playing iPads, instead of playgrounds. I get this, but seriously, have you seen the conditions of your local playground? I know mine is terrible, and we still try and find time to bring Mahdi there once in awhile. But i understand this is a luxury that many don’t have. We really can’t compare what we had back then, and what our children have.
  • Seeing pictures of Miley Cyrus that look like this on the internet…. Too many things piss me off about this picture that i don’t even know where to start.
miley-robin-thicke
WHYYYYYY!!!???
    • Idiot customers who complain sarcastically on facebook, seriously, i don’t bloody have time to figure out if you are being sarcastic or not. I am trying to help your stupid ass, so some common courtesy and manners would be really helpful in me solving your problems.
    • Comments like this on Kim Kardashian’s photo of her daughter North West.

North West
North West commentsDisgusting people. Simply disgusting. I get why people don’t like Kim, her family or Kanye…. but wishing a baby would die, or be gassed? DISGUSTINGLY, FOUL HORRIBLE PEOPLE.

After making this list, it is clear that all my anger and annoyance all stems from the basic absence of humanity, humility and common sense… which i blame the internet for desensitizing this generation. People think if they are behind a keyboard, they can say anything, poke fun at things in the privacy of their homes and aliases.

Being a social media manager, i definitely see more than my fair share of cyber bullying, fueled by ignorance in humanity and manners. I think we should have social media etiquette classes thought at a school level. Something like moral studies, but for the future internet savvy generation.

It’s the only thing that would make sense.

What not to say to a LADY!

Found this video while aimlessly browsing youtube.

Then passed it on to Muuzi for his input.

Me: Yo, *link*
Muuzi:  oh man, i said like 70% of that
Me:  you say ALL THESE THINGS!!
Muuzi: ahahahahhahahah
Me:  haha
Muuzi:  ok 99%
Me:  how are u even married?
Muuzi:  ahahahhahahah
Me:  i have such low standards..
Muuzi:  ur gullible
Me:  hahaha, JK i love you sooo much
Muuzi: me too, muah

I [heart] YOUTUBE.

Whats not to love about youtube….

I think youtube is the INFORMATION CAPITAL OF THE MODERN WORLD!

You can learn anything, and i mean anything… from learning to dance the shuffle, make up techniques, even how to fry an egg!

How awesome is that??

Even more so, Muuzi sent me THIS LINK of Greg Rutter’s Definitive List of The 99 Things You Should Have Already Experienced On The Internet Unless You’re a Loser or Old or Something

I’ve personally seen about 58 of these videos thru out the years! Woah, i really DO need a new hobby.

I wonder how the world would be without Chris Crocker, Tay Zonday, or that Chubby Numa-Numa kid. I mean, Youtube is the place to go when you need the answers to all lifes questions. I mean, all you need is to ASK A NINJA. However, I was quite upset that Izhan’s favourite video Samwells – Whut Whut (in the Butt) didn’t make the list.

Then it would have been 100 things!

Owh this is so awesome…. just for Jaja and Mashi

*Back Story on the video…. A prison in the Philippines currently is using a non violent technique to rehabilitate criminals thru DANCE! Currently 8 other prisons have adopted this technique.

I can see it now, PUDU jail, a musical. 😀 😀 😀 😀

More here.